pretty for a black girl.

WTF?!

So today I took my niece to the neurologist (yup Ima good auntie) when a hispanic woman came over && started talking to me.

First off let me say that I don't like people (black, white, brown, spanish, asian, ALIVE) && if I don't already know you, then I don 't wanna get to know you.

But this middle- aged woman continues to talk my ear off while we sit in the waiting room. I'm pretty good at ignoring strangers (people I know && care for are a different story) when something she said actually reached me.

She had the nerve to say

You very pretty. What else are you? I know you can't just be Black.

stop the presses. Old b-i-itch say what??
Now I'm sure somewhere in that ignorance was a compliment, the problem is: I'm not digging that far in to find it!

So I said back to her:

no I'm just Black. 100% Black. 100% Beautiful.

Her face dropped && she scooted over a couple of seats. I guess she was trying to figure out if I had some spanish in me (or latino, idk which ever is politically correct) && thus wanted to bound.

Sorry to burst her bubble.


The thing about this is it wasn't the first time. Lately (since I've made the decision to go natural) I've been questioned a lot on my ethnicity. Partially because of my chinky/slanted eyes but more so for my curly/wavy hair


















One time when I was in high school, some puerto rican dude told me I was "pretty for a black girl". See I went to h.s. in spanish harlem so my school was filled with em. So of course every black girl I knew was offended
1- because they wanted to be called pretty for their race (ignorant)
2- or because they didn't like me && thought I wasn't pretty.

for the record, I think I am badd =) yup with 2 "d's"

So because I don't like to feed into people's ignorance I tell people I am 100% black, which isn't the whole truth.

But I feel like I'm sticking to them to say 'yea we got some badd looking black women in the real world (not including celebrities)

So to set the record straight:

Eury is 50% Jamaican (mixed with Chinese, yes honestly...), 25% Black (straight negro), && 25% British/ Greek (for the simple- minded this means White).

If your still confused: My dad is Jamaican && Chinese and my mom is half Black && half White.

Yup... Ima mut =)

SHOUT OUTS: shout out to Shadé for the HOT header =) check out her blog

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Uniquely YOU

Hello all...

I feel a little weird once I really got into this whole blogging thing and the conclusion that I've come to is....

::drumroll please:: Blogging is just like high school. Its a race to see who can get the most hits on their page, basically who can become the most popular. Who's page design is the most unique. And what I've found is that every one on here is striving to be the most unique and "different from the rest" or the most mainstream. So that makes me ask, where do I fall in? what genre is my blog? What kind of audience (if any) do I have?

The thing that is mind boggling to me is that majority of the blogs that I have seen haven't really been news worthy or special. But then that leads me to the question: is my blog newsworthy? who decides what newsworthy is?

Don't mind me I get a little frazzled from time to time. I begin to question a bunch of things like purpose and existence to whether or not I really enjoy all my hobbies and such.

I guess my main point is self reflection. We should all stop an re- evaluate ourselves. Be original and don't regret ANY thing that you do...

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xoxo

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Future advice columnist?

Hello all...
I am pleased to announce that I received my first email asking for advice! The sender (who wishes to remain anonymous) is asking, to some, a life altering question. I am too happy to answer the question as it is a subject dear to my heart.

The email is as follows:

"Dear PrincessaMedia:
I just wanna say I wasn't really into the whole blog thing but your's is kinda cool. You can relate to it, which is why I joined your group on facebook. I don't want you to reveal my name on your blog because those who know me or you will automatically know what situation I am speaking on.

But my question is: When do things get easier? I feel like I give and I give to family, friends, and even my boyfriend and I feel like I never get the same in return. Now all the people in my circle aren't all jerks (my boyfriend and my sisters and brothers) but the friends aren't as understanding or caring...

After I sat them down to tell them how I was feeling and what we should do to move on and it seems weeks later nothing has changed. What should I do?"

I would just like to say thanks for reading my blog! And secondly this isn't an easy question to answer. Some of the more stubborn people I know would say to cut them off and keep on moving. Some of the nicer people I know would say try talking to them again because some people never learn on the first try.

Personally, from experience I've learned that just because you hold someone in high regards that the sentiment doesn't have to be returned. I had people in my life that I felt were life long friends that turned out to be semester long friends...

You see like my mom always told me (and she's pretty wise for a young mom, lol) God puts people in your life to teach you certain lessons and that once you learn from them, they leave. So, I was learning from these people and trying to keep them in my life way past their expiration dates.

You gotta go with the flow, and not to sound cliche but if you love something, let it go, and if it comes back its here to stay. If these people are willing to leave (or in your situation, not be there like they should or just overall bad friends) let them go. If they're true friends they'll find their way back to.

Take this as a sign that God wants you to work on you. Maybe you need some more alone time or God is teaching you independence. Just remember everything happens for a reason and to learn to find the good in things.

Hope this helps
xoxo

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